How To Handle The Syndrome Common To Empty Nesters

Parents go through many things in raising their children to raise their children to be responsible citizens when grown. That is their goal in raising their children, whether they do it right or wrong. But, the time ultimately comes when the child will be leaving. This is not always a pleasant thing for the parent. They don't want to face the empty nesters situation. Even though it is supposed to be a happy time, that is not always so.

Parents can take pride in a child who is responsible and getting out on their own, to start their lives with the skills they have learned from their parents. Instead of being proud of the skills their children have learned, though, they are often sad to see their child leave. They need to understand that their child is going to benefit from what they have taught them.

It is important to acknowledge your feelings of sadness instead of pretending everything is okay. Though you may be happy for your child, you may still feel sadness. Acknowledge that and know it is normal. However, if you feel a very heavy sadness that you can't seem to be able to handle, don't hesitate to seek professional help.

You are now free to pursue things that are enjoyable to you. Try to think of things you enjoyed prior to having children. Though it would have been difficult with children to do some of these things, you can not pursue them. Think about these things, or other things you might enjoy.

You can not pursue new things that are fun for you, and maybe a little on the dangerous side. It may be you always wanted to skydive or zip line. Now you can. You can start a new hobby. You are no longer responsible for a small child, so can do those things. Seek them out and do them with not guilt.

This is also a great time to pursue career goals. You may have had to postpone things that would help your career. Now is the time to do that, be it additional schooling, or travelling for work. You can even begin a new career if that is your desire. No family responsibilities are interfering in your doing these things if you want to.

Travel, which is so hard when you have children is now possible. You can travel across the country or even internationally, if you choose. RV living is also now possible. If retired, you have no time restraints. Keep you identification with you and you can qualify for special senior prices and programs. You have unlimited possibilities now, with no children to consider.

Downsizing is not a possibility for you, since you have no children living at home anymore. You can live in a beach house or condo, either in a luxurious one or a small one that is cheaper to save expenses. If you want to live on the beach, or in the mountains, you are free to do so. You no longer need as large a house, so can go for a smaller one that is more luxurious, maybe something you have always wanted.